Empty Your Cup

November 25th, 2009

We all have strategies or stories as to how the world works. Many psychologists agree that we don’t really see the world directly, we see it through our filters of reality. A child with an abusive alcoholic father will have very different strategies of trust than someone who grew up in a safe and loving family, as an example.

So our growing up gives us our filters, our opinions, our beliefs. The more we are sure that our opinions and beliefs are the right ones, the more “attached” to our world view we are. This attachment is fine if it works for you. But being full of these opinions and beliefs is what I mean by being “full”. There’s no room for new ideas, new strategies.

As a coach, a lot of what I do is help people take their limiting beliefs, and expose them. Bring the light of consciousness to them so the person can make a choice as to whether they should keep that belief “in their cup” or discard it.

You have no idea how many of us are running around with these kinds of thoughts: “I’m too fat.” “I’m not smart enough.” I’m not pretty enough.” etc. I help people learn to empty their cup and fill it with more appropriate world models. Then they have the skill to empty and refill on their own.